The Way to Escape a Hard Marriage

"There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it." (1Co 10:13)

I pray for you if you are in a hard marriage because I know what it is like. You feel like there is no way of escape, but there is. After all, God promised. But you cannot see the way out. I know because I have been there. Divorce is not the answer; it is not the escape. I know what this is like because my husband has chosen to divorce me, and his decision to divorce me did not give me relief and freedom from pain. There was only more pain, and still no escape. But there is a way of escape from a difficult marriage, and it is not the world's way. There must be an escape; God promised. God is faithful to His promises. So where is the escape? You have looked everywhere for the escape. I know. I have been there. I cried out to the Lord for my escape, and still I could not see. God kept His promise. He gave me a way of escape from the pain in my marriage, and He gave me a way of escape from the pain of divorce. I did not find relief in the marriage, nor did I discover it in the divorce I am walking through. I found the escape. His name is Jesus. My human husband broke every promise He ever made to me. But my new husband - Jesus - He has kept every one He ever made. He is the promise. He is the escape.

Jesus wants to be my everything. He wants to be yours too. Wherever you are in your marriage, or wherever you are in a divorce, or wherever you are being single, remember. When you feel you cannot find the way out, remember Jesus is the way. May He be your everything. Hold onto Him for dear life. Escape in Him. Rest in His love.

A Surprising Way to Get Over Your Broken Heart

Isa 61:10  "I will greatly rejoice in the LORD, my soul shall be joyful in my God; for he hath clothed me with the garments of salvation, he hath covered me with the robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom decketh himself with ornaments, and as a bride adorneth herself with her jewels."

"Pastor Freddie, what is it going to take for me to finally let my husband go?" I asked my beloved pastor, who has stood by me through almost two years of heartache since my husband's abandonment - not to mention everything that came before it. My pastor is rooted and grounded in God's love, not to mention His Word, so his answer shocked me. "It will take falling in love with someone else," he replied simply. "What?" I retorted. Another man to get over my husband? A rebound is the answer? My pastor does not live in the flesh; he walks in the Spirit. How could he give me such worldly advice? "When you fall totally in love with Jesus and become totally satisfied with His love," my beloved father in Christ explained, "you will fully let go." Just weeks away from the court hearing in which my husband will finalize the divorce he has chosen, I know there is only one way to get over my broken heart. Jesus. I took great pride in the fact I never committed adultery in my marriage. But alas, I committed adultery where my true husband is concerned. Precious Jesus never gave up on me as I fell in love with another man who took over my heart and my mind. Today, I know the greatest husband in the universe is mine forever. My beloved. My Jesus.

He is your husband too, dear princess. Fall into His arms and rest in His love, forevermore. You may have an earthly husband, too, but never lose sight He is your first love - the one who is yours for eternity. 

The Love of Your Life!

"Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for He hath said, "I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee" (Hebrews 13:5 KJV)."


I spent so many years seeking the love of my life that I am amazed I could not see my Prince Charming was waiting for me with open heart and open arms from before I was even born! But I was stubborn, and rebellious, and bound and determined to find the perfect man for me. My Prince never gave up on me, however. Through the abandonment of my earthly father and then of two dear husbands, my Prince never turned away.


How easily He could have decided not to take the leftovers of other men. Instead, when I at last stumbled, fell, and broke into a million pieces, guess who welcomed me with mercy that endures forever? Jesus. I will never have the words to describe how my heart shattered at the loss of the men I have loved most on this earth, but then nor will I ever be able to put human words to the magnificence of the love of my life - the one I sought all along and could not see stood right before me, waiting.


Though I had spoken His name before, prayed in His name, talked about Him, even studied Him, I did not ever truly let Him into the depths of my heart until I was too broken to look any further than right before my very eyes. He is the one who will never leave, and the one who will never forsake me. Today, as He should have been all along, He is my first love. He is my forever love. And He is waiting at the door to your heart. 


Please, dear princess, do not just say the words you believe in Jesus. Open your heart, no matter how broken it might be, or how full it might be with a beautiful life. No matter the condition of your heart, open the door and beckon Him in. He calls. He wants to be your first love, the love of your life!